What Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder? - Part 1 in the NPD abuse series

December 15,2016 By: Mansi poddar

Narcissistic personality disorder, also known as NPD, is a personality disorder in which the individual has a distorted self-image, unstable and intense emotions, is overly preoccupied with vanity, prestige, power and personal adequacy, lacks empathy, and has an exaggerated sense of superiority( medical news today)

Below are the most common signs and symptoms found in people with narcissistic personality disorder:

  • An insatiable appetite for  attention
  • prone to extreme feelings of jealousy, can even be jealous of their kids and parents.
  • Believe and behave as though they deserve special treatment and importance
  • Exaggerate their achievements, talents and rewards
  • Hyper sensitive to criticism or what they perceive as criticism and insult.
  • Difficulty in maintaining relationships, especially intimate ones.
  • Over estimate their power, success, looks. A lot of it is fantasised.
  • They will take advantage of people if required, without guilt or regret
  • People with NPD feel easily rejected ( rejection is painful for all of us, but NPDs react terribly to it)
  • They lack empathy and compassion.
  • Many believe that only others – “special” people – are really able to understand their uniqueness.
  • May consider themselves as very skilled in romance; more skilled than anybody else.
  • Can appear very warm and charming initially
  • Obsessed with themselves. They may be perceived by others as arrogant or without emotion
  • Respond to criticism with anger, humiliation or shame
  • You feel you cannot share your inner world with them. They lose interest or change the subject. Rarely will they empathise or hear your out.
  • You feel they have a “glossy personality” and you are missing out on the REAL them.
  • Can entice you with extravagant gestures, which fade out over time( rather quickly)
  • Tend to seek out praise and positive reinforcement from others.
  • Usually expect others to agree with them or go along with what they ask for or want blindly.
  • You feel as though there is no “emotional connect” despite communicating and being with them for a long time.
  • They are incapable of emotional support if they perceive it as weakness or energy drainage. They often seem to lose interest when someone makes an emotional demand.
  • Whatever they crave or yearn for must be “the best”. They usually associate with what they perceive as superior or equal to them.
  • They want to control and possess you. They can get very overpowering
  • Their affection is very hot cold, on off, push-pull. Usually, you find yourself trying to ” get them” and “connect.”
  • They can lie for anything and everything.

Before diagnosing someone with NPD please contact a professional. A personality disorder is very different from quirky personality traits. Also, a diagnosis cannot be made based on the list above. It is not based on having a few Narcissistic traits but rather a cluster of symptoms that are not time bound.