It is very unfortunate that in today’s world, where health and fitness is so highly emphasized, that we often tend to ignore the mental aspect of good health. Depression, anxiety and stress are often frowned down upon, often condescended to the inability of the an individual to copy with external pressures of the 21st century world.
If you asked me a few years ago, I’d have never imagined that I’d need therapy at some stage of my life, possibly because Id always thought of myself as a tough, resilient soul, and needing to seek a therapist would’ve been almost an ego issue back then. However, certain events in life occurred that forced me into an abyss of sorts – moving cities, changing jobs and sectors, certain disagreements with my family, a personal and professional move I didn’t enjoy at all. i reached a low phase in my life where I couldn’t cope, and realized that I was no longer that happy, active, energetic person I’d been in my earlier job and the city I’d previously lived in. At this stage, turning to Mansi was not exactly because i felt i needed ‘therapy’ , rather more because I felt the strong need for an impartial, non-judgemental third person in my life, someone with whom i could share what was going on in my mind, possibly even vent out my unhappiness and frustration.
I have been under Mansi’s counseling and therapy for almost a year, and it truly has benefitted me tremendously. Not only was Mansi a patient listener throughout, but also a huge positive influence in my life during the low times. She didn’t read out quotes of famous people, or tell me stories of her previous clients. She encouraged me to face my fears, and find answers within myself. From a shoulder to cry on, to a huge calming down mechanism, to even the devil’s advocate occasionally, she played multiple roles in our association, all of which gave me assurance that in the end, things would work out. Most importantly, she gave me the courage to stand up for myself, and walk out of a personal and professional scenario that I didn’t enjoy, realizing through her sessions that I never would. And what’s more, she constantly advised me to work on building a positive mindset, which I soon came to realize, is one of the most powerful weapons we human beings can have. Every session with her would end on a positive note, and i’d feel stronger and fuller.
Now, with things in my life much more sorted than they were, and me being a much calmer, relaxed, and happier person, I look back and realize that opting for therapy was although an unconscious, but a great decision I took. I’m not going to claim that i wouldn’t have been able to do without it, but my therapist and therapy sessions certainly gave me a lot of strength, positive reassurance and energy to fight undesirable situations and instances in my life.
Should I go in for therapy? I’m not sure I’m the best person to answer this. It depends on many things – the situation of life you are in, the relationship with your therapist, and your own expectation from the person whose professional therapy skills you seek. What’s crucial to remember, however, is that feeling the need for therapy is not necessarily a sign of being weak, as some people might tell you. On the contrary, being able to approach a stranger, and share your worries, fears and problems requires a massive amount of courage. Also, the bottomline is to remember that your therapist isn’t a magician, who will wave a wand and your life will automatically sort itself out. He or she will only be a very positive enabler, who will help you on the road to self-discovery, And therapy will only work, when you, as an individual, are genuinely wanting to improve things in your life. And when a person is committed to becoming a better version of himself, miracles can happen!